"Twenty one habits of happy people "by Cindy Holbrook

"Happiness is a habit - cultivate it". Elbert Hubbard
Happy people have a different way of thinking and doing things. They maintain a positive attitude about people, things and life in general. They interpret the world that they live in.


Happy people generally have the following habits that express their values and beliefs …



:1-Love Self
Be your own best friend. It sounds simple and like a brainer" but learning to truly love yourself can be a challenge. "
It’s absolutely the most essential step in being a happy person .
You need to learn to enjoy your own company and to embrace everything about yourself. Like who you are on the inside. Accept your flaws. Claim the fact that you are a wonderfully flawed human! Pamper yourself.


2. Take Care of Self
As a part of loving yourself, you will take care of your body and health. Get regular medical check ups. Eat healthy and work out. Get plenty of rest. Drink lots of water. Exercise your mind by continually energizing it with interesting and exciting challenges.
When you’re not feeling well – either physically or emotionally, it’s hard to be happy.


3. Love Others
Love is what makes the world go around. Follow the saying “Do unto others, as you would have them do unto you”. This is simply saying treat everyone with kindness, compassion and respect.
Love is the basis for ALL happiness. If we love being with someone – we’re happy. If we love what we are doing – we’re happy.


4. Choose Friends Wisely
It’s your choice with whom you associate with on a regular basis. If you don’t want to become like someone, then be involved with them as little as possible.
Surround yourself with happy, positive people who share your values and goals. You want comrades that will build you up and help you to accomplish your dreams and goals.


5. Dare to Dream
Dream BIG!!! Happy people know that when they dream big in every aspect of their life – that their life is set in motion to bring their dreams into reality.


6. Do What You Enjoy
Some statistics show that 80% of people dislike their jobs! No wonder there’s so many unhappy people running around. We spend a great deal of our life working. Choose a career that you enjoy – the extra money of a job you detest isn’t worth it.
Make time to enjoy your hobbies and pursue special interests. Doing things you enjoy makes you happier and more productive.


7. Look to the Future
Happy people focus on creating the future of their dreams. They take the time to learn the skills and strategies to create the outcome they desire. Happy people set their goals, make a plan to succeed and take action. We are always happy when we are pursuing something we value.



8. Accept What they Can not Change
Happy people don’t waste their thoughts or energy on situations beyond their control. They know and accept their limits as a human. This means they don’t worry about the future and they don’t fret over the past.


9. Are Proactive
Happy people instinctly find the area that they can influence. Once their circle of influence is found, they begin actively participating in creating the outcome they are seeking.


10. Attitude of Gratitude
Happy people have an attitude of gratitude. They constantly and consistently count their blessings. They see the glass as half full. They have the ability to find the positive side to most situations.


11. Steer Clear of Negativity
Happy people steer clear of negative people and negative thoughts. Negativity breeds negativity – just as happiness can breed happiness.
Happy people do not blame, criticize or condemn others. They are not jealous of other peoples successes and goals.


12. Forgiveness
Forgive others as well as yourself. Many people have an easier time forgiving other peoples shortcomings than their own. When you make a mistake – own up to it – learn from it – and FORGIVE yourself.



13. Honesty
Every action you make should be based on honesty. Conduct all business with honesty and integrity. Be honest with yourself and with your loved ones.



14. Persistence
Practice persistence with patience. If you fall – get up and get going again. It’s all a part of learning and helps us to become all that we dream of being.



15. Positive Thinking
We gravitate in the direction of our thoughts. Happy people know this and practice the act of thinking positively daily. Many happy and successful people don’t even think twice about it. They subconsciously replace most negative thoughts with a positive one.



16. Mental Rehearsal
Happy people have also learned the art of visualization. This is simply a practice of mentally rehearsing their desired outcome.
This includes everything from a pleasant night out with friends, to a successful sales call or winning that all-important game, and everything in between.
It’s also visualizing your future soul-mate, your dream car or your dream house.



17. Laugh
Don’t take yourself – or life too seriously. Instead of stressing out over situations – Find humor in them. When appropriate laugh and make light of it. (Naturally there are times that you should be serious as it would be improper to laugh.)



18. Enjoy Life
Happy people try to have a good time – ALL of the time. They whistle while they work. They find joy in every task they perform – no matter how menial.
Happy people have fun trying new things to do and see. To them life is one long adventure trip. They see the beauty of a sunset. They enjoy walks in the park. They have learned to live in the moment and enjoy it while it’s there.



19. Decision Making
When making personal or business decisions, happy people have learned to trust their gut instincts – which are almost always the right decision!
They don’t see a problem; they see a challenge or a situation. (The word problem can birth negative thinking.)
They look at the whole picture and weigh the pros and cons before taking action. They don’t waste time wallowing in self pity. They immediately get to work at finding a creative solution.



20. Continuous Learning
Happy people are continually working on improving themselves. They know that they will never be perfect. They strive to be the BEST they can be.
They understand they are constantly changing, and by working on ones self – they will be growing and changing for the better.
They keep up to date on the latest regarding their careers and hobbies. They listen to motivational tapes and read books like “Habits of Highly Effective People” and “Think and Grow Rich”.



21. Take Responsibility
Happy people know and understand that they are 100% responsible for their life. They take responsibility for their moods, attitude, thoughts, feelings, actions and words.
They are the first to admit when they’ve made a mistake. And usually have a plan of action to rectify it before others find out about it.



Note: The more of these habits you can adapt into your daily life, the faster you will be on the road to finding true happiness that endures